If you and your spouse or partner are breaking up, how you talk to each other and to your children can make a big difference. Try to think about the other parent as a business partner. Acting "businesslike" might help get your mind off the pain and stress so you can focus better on your children.
Here are some tips:
- Be polite, just like you would be at work.
- Stay on the subject. Focus on doing what is best for your child.
- Control your emotions, just like you would do at work.
- Be clear and specific when you talk to the other parent. Write things down and keep businesslike records of important agreements.
- Keep your promises. Your children need to be able to trust and rely on you. This is very important right now.
- Watch the words you use when you talk about separation or divorce.
For some suggestions about where to get other help, go to the California Court's Self-Help Center or check out one of the sites below:
Resources in California
- All Superior Courts in California by County
- State Bar of California's Find an Attorney Web site
- Free and Low-Cost Legal Help
- Where to write for vital records
Resources Across the USA
- Find government services and information by topic
- Find organizations in other states that provide free legal assistance to eligible clients.
Resources Around the Globe
- Find organizations in other countries that provide free legal assistance to eligible clients.